Abstract:
The phenomenon of older women-younger men relationships is starting to become more prominent in the media both internationally and in the Philippines but there has been no formal studies regarding this type of relationship. Hence, the study aimed to explore the different dimensions of the life and experiences of a Filipina Cougar and to her perspectives toward her relationship, partner and self.
Data was collected through in-depth interviews with five Filipina women aged between 35-45 years old with long time partners who are aged at least seven years younger than the women. The respondent must be committed to her partner for at least six months and must be residing within Metro Manila. Interpretative phenomenological analysis (IPA) was used as the research design. This was applied through categorizing direct statements from the respondents. Meanings or themes were determined by interpreted data or clusters.
Results show that Cougars are often hesitant to enter the relationship and have no perceived stable future if there are no children with the younger partner. Previously unsuccessful relationships or dissatisfaction with one’s self or life-experience are seen as motivations of Cougars to enter older women-younger men relationships. It was also shown that most myths or portrayals of the Cougar in the media are either untrue or exaggerated. Prejudice and double standards for this type of relationship still prevails with most respondents receiving negative responses from families and friends, both from their side and their partners’. Further investigations about the subject, particularly the younger male partner involved was recommended.
